Well, it happened, I heard it with my very own ears. Winter told her parents 'I hate you.' I went down stairs to get something from a room in our basement and all over three pieces of furniture is bright green marker. In the past we have made it very clean that 1) markers are only for paper and 2) Winter is responsible for her markers. While Winter was coloring earlier Ledger must have sneaked off and decorated the couch and two ottomans downstairs. I was not too worried about it because they are washable markers and I also take responsibility that he was unsupervised long enough to have done the deed. I called Winter down and asked what happened. She knew right away that she was in trouble and that she was supposed to have been keeping track of her markers. I asked her how she was going to make sure this didn't happen again. She told me she would put her markers away right now and put them up where Ledger couldn't get them. Fine, fine. I came upstairs and told Cory what happened and he was not so happy about the incident and asked out loud "why do we even have markers?" Winter said she loved the markers. Cory then told her that we shouldn't have markers, we should throw them all away so that Ledger can't get them and draw on the furniture. Winter repeated "but I love them!" Cory was not amused and with a more firm tone told Winter the markers would end up in the trash if that's where they needed to be."I hate you."
Cory told her that no she didn't and that she shouldn't say things like that, especially to him, her father. She was promptly sent to her room. My mouth was a gaping opening at hearing her say such a thing. Where did she pick that lovely saying up? Who else shouldn't I let her play with? My sweet sensitive girl who usually folds like a house of cards when she meets any resistance just really let one fly. Cory and I both know she doesn't fully understand what she said, but still. I already feel like I keep her from playing with several other children because of different things. One is obnoxious, one picks on her, one is as likely to run down the street and disappear as she is to stay and play with Winter or worse have Winter follower her and then I don't know where they are at all, one I don't get along with her mother, and now I have one that probably is teaching Winter all these wonderful things to say.
UPDATE: Upon talking to Winter she learned 'I hate you' from Nemo, so no more Disney either :)
1 comment:
Those words are like a punch in the gut! I will say that I from working with you, listening to you and reading your blog...I think you and Cory are excellent parents.
I don't think you need to keep Winter away from anything and everything that might be a bad influence (some are a definite need) but not everything.
She has wonderful influence from you two and I've always admired how you always stick strong to your values no matter what others are doing around you. Winter will indoubtably learn that from you.
With Jayden I've been working on when he says something/does something that is wrong or I feel like he's picked up from someone else. I talk with him about why it's not good and when he tells me 'so & so does it!' I do my best to explain why we all have a choice to say or do nice things and what happens when we don't make that choice.
Now he tells me 'My choice is....'.
Hang in there! If anything you've proved to me why I always lock the markers up. Casey would have my whole house redecorated! Ü
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